Desperate

"How did it get to this point?" A friend of mine and I were asking, rolling our eyes, sipping our glasses of wine. We weren't referring to anything in our own lives, but that of another dear friend fo ours, Karyn. Karyn is a sweet beautiful woman, yet she sees herself as having one major flaw. She's single. Not single and loving it, not single and looking, she's single and desperate. Her latest hunt for a beaux has taken place online. Not with a reputable online dating service. Instead, she found an interesting site, which will remain nameless, although, the name of which would generate some laughs. She found a man seven states away, who after knowing online for 3 weeks declared "he knows my soul...we're going to get married." Whoa, what? Does he know that? "Well, we haven't really talked about it, but I just know."

Maybe they will get married and live happily ever after. In which case, good for them. One of the many problems I have with this whole thing...maybe he's an axe murderer and she's so desperate to get married she'll overlook anything and everything for that opportunity. I know the lonliness that surrounds singleness...I understand the anxiety it can cause. But when does the lonliness, anxiety, or desire for someone become too desperate? And if you see someone traveling down that road, how do you let them know? We've raised our concerns-she's the type of person that once she gets something in her head, she'll do anything to make it happen.

For now, we're letting it slide, but ladies, be careful! There's nothing wrong with online dating-please just check your facts. If you start to feel "desperate" change your attitude. You'll never feel better about being single if you always allow yourself to feel bad.

As for Karyn, she has a history of falling in love a little too fast and being heartbroken. Maybe that's where our concern lies. I use the term "falling in love" lightly. I personally think she's in love with the idea of having someone. I'll keep you pdated on Karyn-who knows, as backwards as it sounds, maybe she'll end up being happy and I'll find myself on that website looking for a man hundreds of miles away.